Everyday is a learning experience now with an autistic kid. This is the truth and the new normal now. It seems to hurt me somedays since I feel like my kid should he “farther” and different than the rest. But I have to remember that is incredibly unique, happy, healthy, and smart.
It seems that today people put so much pressure on us to leave this “ happy life” You know that picture perfect that you envisioned when you found you were younger. I tell myself that God wouldn’t give me anything that I can’t handle and that is the truth.
Let’s put all those “picture perfect” visions and thoughts away because they wont ever be true; that is just reality. Its the same feelings you get when you are about to get married, you think your life will forever change and be perfect. Then you have that first fight and the second and you realize it isnt what you envisioned because society makes us think this stuff!
So now back to the autism… I can’t expect things to happen overnight. I can’t expect my kid to be like others. I can’t compare my kid to other autistic kids. The only thing that I can do is be a parent to my son. I have to accept all of this for what it is worth and realize nothing is perfect and wont ever be.
Being a parent is the hardest freakin thing, ever. If someone would of told me this years ago, I wouldn’t of believed them! So what does all this even mean? There is going to be times for me as a parent when things are rough with an autism kid. I can’t help it when he throws a tantrum, I want to give in.
I get upset when he can’t communicate to me and he doesnt understand me… I get anxiety thinking what should I do to make this easier for us? He is incredibly freaking smart, don’t get me wrong. I get so excited when he accomplishes the simplest tasks, but it just hard to communicate to one another!
Helping your kid point his or her finger is the number one thing we have learned, and are working on, since it is a form of communication. I literally have to get in his face to try to communicate and get across to him.
Regression sucks! There isnt any consistency in anything that we do and its hard. We will point to our nose, work on all day, then the next day, he just doesnt remember it. We have to go over it all again. Its the same thing with speech and so much more. So it is really tough guys. I have no really ideas to help get through to him as of right now since we are still in the beginning stages, but I promise you I am working HARD on this!