You can’t have it all. I hear people say their baby hasn’t slept in years! I hear others say they have chronic ear problems. I hear people say their kid is behind. There are so many moms who are worried and down when it comes to this.
I often find myself comparing and getting upset. Most of you know my son is incredibly behind. He was sick for a good 6-9 months, we found out he had asthma! Then found out he had mono and then he had chronic ear infections! We had to do several ear tube surgeries. My kid is so behind because of his hearing and I constantly worried and put the blame on myself.
Now we are questioning if he is autistic and we are getting him tested. I haven’t given this much thought because honestly he is who he is and I’m going to love him no matter what.
I see kids his age who run, climb jump skip and have full sentences we aren’t even close to that. But then I hear that those kids don’t sleep through the night and mine does. So you have to give and take on times like this because you can’t have it all.
I can’t compare my kid to anyone else because he has been through a lot. Everyone goes through obstacles or problems its only natural. Some kids have been through a lot and others have been sick once in their life. I am okay with all of it because it made me stronger and love my kid much more.
I don’t want moms to compare or say “I could never do that” or feel bad for me because at the end of the day… I get all the hugs kisses and laughs I need to know that my son is perfect the way he is. We, as mothers, are all in this together. We need to help each other out more and stop comparing.
Maybe he will catch up someday maybe he will catch a ball and talk in sentences right now I am happy of how far we have come and how we have went through an extremely hard time where I constantly worried about my baby boy.
So the moral of the story is we can’t compare and feel bad for one another. It will drive you nuts. Every kid is unique. Every kid develops different and has their own personality. We can’t force kids to be someone they aren’t let’s let them play outside in mud and be kids and stop worrying (easier said than it is) but truly!
I only have nephews right now and I’m always SO impressed with my sister in law (and brother!) for their constant love and patience! Raising kids certainly doesn’t look easy!
it definitely is challenging! <3
Such a great post! Keep your head high and keep doing what you’re doing!
xo Jessica
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thank you!!
It’s so hard to not compare as a mother. Especially if your child happens to be sick or maybe not sleeping and etc. We’re all trying to do our very best!
agreed, and thats all we can do!
I appreciate your honesty in this post. I’m not a mom, but I can only imagine the pressure that you can end up putting on yourself due to comparison or just because being a mom is such hard work!
thank you for the kind words!
Being a mom seems like it must be so challenging but rewarding too! I think it’s definitely true that every child and parent is different.
thank you!
I love your positive outlook on your son! And love that no matter what you will always love him. He will catch up someday and it will be when he is ready. Sending so much love your way!
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Thank you it took some getting used to but is manageable!
I don’t have a child yet, but I am sure this will all be relatable one day. Keep doing what is best for you and your family!
Thank you!!
I love this post! Mom life is the hardest life, but the best life. Comparison is the hardest, but as long as you have the love, that is all you really need at the end of the day.
Maggie @ Polished Closets
Motherhood is the best thing, ever!
Kudos for not joining the “competitive” momming. It’s not productive and only serves to make you feel bad. Love your kid for who they are, exactly as you are doing!
Yes so true!! thank you
Yes! I often find myself comparing my twin to others, but then I remember their struggles too. They were born extremely premature, and have some delays from that. I hope everything goes OK with your son’s testing.
Thank you for the kind words!
So much yes! My little man [now 16 months] was born very early and has really not caught up size wise yet. He is also ‘behind’ on a few developmental steps too. It’s tough when it becomes a conversation with other moms but I am learning to love our journey, no matter how ‘on track’ we are!
Hang in there, motherhood is so hard! hugs
This is such a sweet post, and I loved reading about how you are working to overcome those comparisons, negativity and struggles between your child and others. There’s nothing stronger than a mothers love and I enjoyed reading how much you love your son. Hang in there! <3
Thank you for the kind words
What a strong little boy, all because of his momma! Hang in there lady!
Such an honest post! I can only imagine how challenging it can be sometimes! Just remember that you’re a super hero! Xo